Am I able to say, "Hey, I think we need to get current in our relationship line." Can I say, "Hey, there's something really important I want to talk about. Is now a good time?" "Maybe I can't drive you to your appointments all of the time anymore, because I have to get back to my own life."

That desire to help and to be of service can become its own addictive behavior pattern. And then I get to start asking myself an honest question. Can I be compassionately honest? Is it my agenda, or is it my loved one's agenda? When there's more than two people involved, there could be multiple agendas that are at play. And am I able to have that sort of challenging, authentic, open conversation around what are the creative solutions that we're looking for?